According to ancient Scholars, silence is Golden, and pivotal for a good listener. Blessed Justin Russollilo teaches that Silence makes one to have control over the self and to put the tongue under control. In fact, a Judicious silence is far better than truth said without Charity .
However, silence can make one feel really bad and terrible especially when one expects/demands a response and this response is not offered. In other words, silence can be positive and can be negative; it is an instrument of destruction and a path to Grace; it can heal and it can kill.
There is a time for everything: a time to talk and a time to be silent (cf. Ecclesiastes 3:7-8); for the quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler of fools (Ecclesiastes 9:17). Even fools are thought wise when they keep silent; with their mouths shut, they seem intelligent (Proverbs 17:28).
POSITIVE CHARACTERISTICS OF SILENCE
S source of wisdom in conflict
I inevitable when someone is confused
L leaves room for understanding
E emphasizes empathic listening
N needed in discernment and Grace
C creative art and act in counselling
E expresses self control
NEGATIVE CHARACTERISTICS OF SILENCE
S silent killer
I conflict worries
L leaves one in confusion
E exposes leader’s incompetency
N nurses hatred
C creative feeling of helplessness
E enchants anger
Remember, Whoever guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble (Proverbs 21:23). Stand in silence in the presence of the Sovereign LORD (Zephaniah 1:7) as He speaks the Word of life to your soul (1 Samuel 3:9).
Be Blessed. Rev Fr Joyzy Pious Ogunjobi
Edited by Fr Lawrence Ogundipe Sdv
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